Focusing on your emotional health isn’t hard, but it may be an adjustment for you. Some simple — and really enjoyable — changes are all it takes to boost happiness and well-being. Follow these ideas to strengthen your emotional health: Exercise. It protects physical and emotional health, relieves stress, and makes you feel good. Make time …
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The Lessons You can’t look for a long term partner and a sexual encounter at the same time. You must look in different places, with different techniques. For example, in a place with loud music, it is impossible for a potential partner to get you know you. Someone just looking for sex does not care. …
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Our lives are defined by the decisions we make each day. When we choose one option over another, whether we are selecting a restaurant or considering a cross-country move, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be empowering, allowing us to enjoy the benefits of self-determination. Yet it can also be a source …
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Sexual Sustenance Taking the time to investigate which fruits and vegetables appeal most in terms of their fragrance, shape, touch, texture (and of course, taste), allows us to see our sustenance with new eyes. With these characteristics in mind, gathering the ingredients for a “sensual” new way of eating can be fun. HERE ARE SOME TIPS: Feast on fruits.Bursting …
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There are certain mornings where I wake up feeling particularly enthusiastic and motivated to start my day because of the activities I get to partake in. This isn’t everyday mind you, at least not yet, but I do hope to continue building my life in this fashion. I want to live a life filled with passionate …
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• Age According to FamilyDoctor.org, we actually begin to lose brain cells as young as our 20′s, the same time our bodies begin to make less of the chemicals the remaining brain cells need to work, affecting our memory as we age. • Hormones As if that’s not bad enough, a study done by McGill University found that decreasing estrogen …
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There’s a pretty comprehensive life story being made about each one of us on a daily basis. I hope they let us look at it someday.
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Decisions decisions and decisions! Making decisions that count is NOT easy for most people. The easy road for a lot of people is to procrastinate or make excuses about what they can’t do. Remember though, that if you are going to continue to procrastinate, you will always be where you are. Your situation will not …
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The day is approaching in which we will be GMOs. Kurzweil AI recently reported: European regulators have approved the first therapy in the western world that can correct errors in a person’s genetic code, according to Amsterdam-based uniQure. Europe has approved Glybera for treatment of Lipoprotein Lipase Deficiency, a rare, inherited disease. Patients with LPLD are unable …
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Is work slowly suffocating you? To-do lists, projects and random chores all piling up until they surround you? When this happens, your best strategy is to get ahead. Get on top of all your work and go beyond completing today’s tasks, complete more than you need to so you can have room to breathe. How …
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Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good. When in doubt, just take the next small step. Life is too short not to enjoy it. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true …
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One of the most popular excuses people rely on is a lack of energy. When we feel tired we give up early. It’s impossible to be enthusiastic when you’re exhausted. Energy is the difference between having a fantastic, productive day and merely going through the motions. For most of my life I considered myself a …
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This post is targeted at the person stuck in the 9 to 5 grind who longs for the weekend and, in the process, has given up on trying to find pleasure in the ordinary experiences we have every day. 1. Appreciate Beauty. Each day we come across beauty in a number of shapes and forms. …
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Mar 11 2013
Focusing on your emotional health isn’t hard, but it may be an adjustment for you. Some simple — and really enjoyable — changes are all it takes to boost happiness and well-being. Follow these ideas to strengthen your emotional health:
- Exercise. It protects physical and emotional health, relieves stress, and makes you feel good.
- Make time for laziness. You don’t have to be constantly on the go — that’s how you get run down. Spend a little time each day or each week doing something you enjoy that is completely frivolous. For example, watch TV or a silly movie, chat on the phone, play a game, or just listen to music.
- Spend some time in the sun. With sunscreen, of course. But sunlight is a great natural way to boost your mood.
- Deal with your emotions. Learn how to properly deal with stress, anger, and anxiety instead of keeping them bottled up inside.
- Be healthy inside. This means avoiding junk food and sticking to a healthy diet. You should also steer clear of smoking, drug use, and too much alcohol.
- Treat your senses. Do little things that make you happy and stimulate your senses, like lighting a scented candle, buying some fresh-cut flowers, indulging in a massage, or treating yourself to your favorite food or drink.
- Sleep. Everyone gets cranky without enough sleep, so dedicate adequate sleep time every night. Or treat yourself to a nap every now and then.
- Be creative. Spend some time learning new things, like a new language or skill (for example, music or knitting). Even just working in your garden can help you relax and feel satisfied.
- Adopt an animal. Pets offer fun, relaxation, and a whole lot of love. They can encourage you to exercise, and tear your attention away from stressful activities.
The bottom line is pretty simple: take time for happiness. Allow yourself to enjoy life, fun, and relaxation. Be thankful for what you have, and enjoy it.
Mar 04 2013
Our lives are defined by the decisions we make each day. When we choose one option over another, whether we are selecting a restaurant or considering a cross-country move, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be empowering, allowing us to enjoy the benefits of self-determination. Yet it can also be a source of anxiety because decisions force us to face the possibility of dissatisfaction and inner conflict. As a result, many of us opt to avoid making decisions by allowing others to make them for us. We consequently turn our power over to spouses, relatives, friends, and colleagues, granting them the stewardship of our lives that is ours by right. Though the decisions we must make are often difficult, we grow more self-sufficient and secure each time we trust ourselves enough to choose.
Ultimately, only you can know how the options before you will impact your daily life and your long-term well-being. Within you lies the power to competently weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each selection. Even if you feel incapable of making a decision, your inner wisdom and your intuitive mind will give you sound counsel if you have faith in yourself. Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others, and even then, treat their suggestions as supplementary information rather than votes to be tallied. Before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. Perceived mistakes can lead you down wonderful and unexpected paths that expose you to life-changing insights. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reigns of your destiny.
When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power. Since you understand that you must live with and take responsibility for your decisions, you will likely exercise great care when coming to conclusions. As you learn to make informed and autonomous choices, you will gain the freedom to consciously direct the flow of your life without interference.
Mar 01 2013
Feb 25 2013
Taking the time to investigate which fruits and vegetables appeal most in terms of their fragrance, shape, touch, texture (and of course, taste), allows us to see our sustenance with new eyes. With these characteristics in mind, gathering the ingredients for a “sensual” new way of eating can be fun.
HERE ARE SOME TIPS:
- Feast on fruits.Bursting with fiber and antioxidants, and thought to be imbued with aphrodisiac properties, many fresh fruits are as sensual as they are nutritious. Apples, apricots, bananas, cherries, coconut, dates, figs, grapes, mangoes, papayas, peaches, pears, plums, pomegranates, quince, raspberries and strawberries are celebrated in erotic literature throughout the world. Whichever fruits you choose, enjoy them often, and with a new appreciation of their attributes.
- Devour delicious vegetables. Asparagus, carrots, celery, corn, cucumbers, carrots, eggplant and several other phallic-shaped vegetables have long been prized for their aphrodisiac effects. Although it may be hard to think of them as “erotic”, these earthly delights certainly invigorate the body with vitamins and minerals. The avocado, on the other hand, is undeniably sensual—so much so that the Spanish conquistadors helped spread its reputation throughout the world as a powerful stimulant. The juicy tomato, or “love apple,” a potent source of the powerhouse antioxidant, lycopene, was once a highly sought-after libido enhancer. Other veggies reputed to turn up the heat and fortify the body, include: beans, garlic, leeks, onions, parsley, peppers, soybeans, spinach, truffles, turnips and watercress. Serve these foods often for optimal sexual health.
- Savor fruits of the sea and lean proteins. Shellfish including abalone, oysters, clams, scallops, shrimp, lobster and deep, cold-water fish like cod and halibut, fuel the body, the brain and sex drive. Oysters, for instance, are rich in zinc and iodine. Zinc, a vital sexual nutriment, is essential for testosterone production in men and women.
- Eat lean meats. Meats such as chicken and turkey are healthful in moderation. “Good protein intake is Important, but excessive amounts can interfere with sexuality,” warns Elson Haas, M.D., and author of “Staying Healthy With Nutrition”. If possible, choose organic meats to avoid hormones, antibiotics and other additives typically found in these foods. Nuts, seeds and beans are also excellent sources of protein. Both pine nuts and pumpkin seeds are sexual adjuvants.
- Get a little on the side. Although a healthy diet provides most of the nourishment necessary for sexual wellness, a multivitamin/mineral supplement offers extra health insurance. Vitamins including A, the B group, C and E are necessary for sexual functioning. Vitamin E, for instance, supplies the sex organs with sufficient oxygen. B vitamins, including niacin and B-5, can help men and women reach orgasm and improve sexual stamina. Selenium, manganese and of course, zinc, are also vital in regulating hormones and revving up sex drive. Rather than taking these individually, take a multivitamin/mineral to ensure correct dosages. Check with your doctor to learn which brands he or she recommends.
Feb 18 2013
There are certain mornings where I wake up feeling particularly enthusiastic and motivated to start my day because of the activities I get to partake in.
This isn’t everyday mind you, at least not yet, but I do hope to continue building my life in this fashion. I want to live a life filled with passionate pursuits. I love when I have time to write, learn and research, play the drums, and teach and interact with others about inspiring topics.
According to an article in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being (2009), “…passion is defined as a strong inclination or desire toward a self-defining activity that one likes (or even loves), finds important (high valuation), and in which one invests time and energy.” More importantly, this article points out that having what’s specifically called ‘harmonious passions’ leads to greater well-being and fulfillment.
Those who are passionate about daily activities are likely to have greater zest and energy for life, and to have a sense of meaning in what they do. Living with passion can contribute to self-growth and greater happiness providing us satisfaction and greater life purpose.
So what in your life do you love to do? What’s really important to you? And what do you devote a great deal of time to?
This can be a wide variety of activities, anything from sports to nature, or from marketing to astrophysics. No matter what your passion is, the important thing is that you have moments during your day or week where you are filled with enthusiasm and gratification because of these things.
Be aware that passions can lose their impact on our well-being when they become tainted with external contingencies. For instance, think of situations when people decided to take a hobby and turn it into a business only to realize the activity lost it’s luster.
For some people, our passions are separate from our livelihood and when we try to turn something we love to do into a tireless quest for wealth it can make us miserable. This is because when we’re required to engage in an activity for external reward or because of a deadline placed upon us, it can take away the emotional benefits that were before purely at hand.
As long as you feel a sense of control and balance in your life related to your passion, you are on good footing. If nothing else, find what gives you this intrinsic sense of exhilaration and creative freedom and engage in this whenever you can.
Don’t make excuse, just open yourself up to creative forces of expression and embrace the experience fully.
Feb 06 2013
• Age According to FamilyDoctor.org, we actually begin to lose brain cells as young as our 20′s, the same time our bodies begin to make less of the chemicals the remaining brain cells need to work, affecting our memory as we age.
• Hormones As if that’s not bad enough, a study done by McGill University found that decreasing estrogen levels also do a number on our working memory, which can explain why many women complain of “mommy” or “menopause” brain.
• Sleep Without adequate sleep, your brain has a harder time absorbing and recalling new information, according to WebMD. But sleep does more than help sharpen the mind. Studies show that sleep (or lack therof) affects physical reflexes, fine motor skills and judgment, too. One studyshowed that participants who were sleep-deprived were more likely to think they were right when they were actually wrong. (Not that any of us would do that.)
• Stress The need to get it all done and perfectly is enough to send anyone over the edge. Think you’re a great multitasker? According to a new Huffington Post article, a recent study says you’re wrong. (Maybe you just think you’re right because you’re sleep deprived.) In fact, the study found that the better a person thinks they are at multitasking, the worse they actually are. “The people who multitask the most tend to be impulsive, sensation-seeking, overconfident of their multitasking abilities, and they tend to be less capable of multitasking,” said study researcher and psychology professor David Strayer.
But what if overextending ourselves isn’t really the issue. How do we know the difference between a common occurrence and something more serious like dementia?
Could I Have Early-Onset Alzheimer’s?
According to FamilyDoctor.org, memory loss can become a more serious problem as it affects your daily living. If you find that any of the following apply to you, it’s best to consult your doctor.
• No longer remember how to do things you’ve done many times before (losing your way to work even though you’ve taken the same route over and over, not being able to follow directions in a recipe…)
• Changes in mood and personality
• Memory loss tends to increase over time (from several months to years)
What are some things we can do to thwart memory loss and keep our minds sharp? Some foods and food-based multivitamins are said to be helpful in boosting memory and sharpness.
Allspice (promotes memory)
Avocado (remembering details)
Flax (assimilation of information and memory improvement)
Papaya (memory retention)
There are also other lifestyle tweaks that can go a long way in keeping your mind sharp.
Find a system For some, writing things down is enough to keep them on track. For me, I’ve channeled my inner-nerd, creating spreadsheets for everything from homework, paying bills, grocery lists and work assignments (Now, if I could only remember to open them…).
Use it or lose it Like muscles, your brain needs to be exercised in order to stay sharp. Consider skipping an hour of those mindless online games and use the same time to learn a new skill, start a hobby, read a book or even challenge the kids to a game of Scrabble.
Get healthy It’s not exactly breaking news that healthy diet, regular exercise and clean living is said to keep you on your game. While you’re at it, decrease or cut out the mind-zapping alcohol.
Maintain a sense of humor While memory loss can be extremely difficult, don’t sweat the small stuff. Remember, we’re all getting older, don’t take it so seriously.
Jan 23 2013
Jan 16 2013
Decisions decisions and decisions! Making decisions that count is NOT easy for most people. The easy road for a lot of people is to procrastinate or make excuses about what they can’t do.
Remember though, that if you are going to continue to procrastinate, you will always be where you are. Your situation will not change until you do something about it. Decisions that count are those that will get you to take action!
The Difference Between I Should and I Must
With the year so new, a lot of people make new year resolutions, and until this very year, I used to be one of those people. I have since stopped making them because I have never stuck to really making it work. I have also realized that most resolutions are made of should:
I should start exercsisng
I should start eating healthy
I should save money
I should read more
I should get more organized
I should go to the gym more
I should appreciate the people n my life more
I should I should I should!
The problem with should is that it is not that urgent for you to take action, enough to change your circumstance. A should has not gotten to the point where you make a decision to change it, you are still comfortable being where you are with your life the way it is. Saying “I should lose weight” is not a real decision to lose weight, because you can still procrastinate, you can still get out of it and you are not ready to really take action on it.
The only time you really make a decision is when you change your should to must!
When something becomes a must, you are going to give it priority, you are going to back it up with action and you will do it, no matter what!
If you are not happy with the way your life is, decide on what it is you want to happen in your life. Make a decision today to work towards it, make a plan and take action towards your goals.
Do you want things to change in your life? Then make that decision!
If you want change, if you want your life to be better, if you want your life to be greater than it is, if you want to be happier, then you have to be willing to pay the price. You have to be willing to make that decision and commit to it, and you have to be willing to work at it every day of your life, until you get to where you need to be.